Rest, Wishing I Had More!

importance-of-restGetting sleep and feeling well rested is not a luxury I will be experiencing in the next couple months, because I now have a one-week-old newborn. Already I have noticed the irritability and slowness in my general functioning. Some of this can be the pospartum changes, but a lack of sleep does take its toll on a person.

When I was an undergrad, I was fascinated with the connection between a person’s emotional and physical health and spent a lot of time learning more about the mind-body connection. No matter what the health topic may be — cancer, heart disease, or stress — the body and psyche will likely be working hand in hand.

I recently read an article from Science Daily titled “Nap Deprived Tots May Be Missing Out On More Than Sleep.”

The study shows toddlers between two and a half and three years old who miss only a single daily nap show more anxiety, less joy and interest, and a poorer understanding of how to solve problems, said CU-Boulder Assistant Professor Monique LeBourgeois, who led the study.

When my son was fourteen months old, we went through some transitions and his schedule only allowed for one nap a day instead of two. This was a very difficult transition for him because he loves his sleep and was not getting as much as he wanted or needed. When he missed that extra nap during the day, he was more irritable, easily frustrated, and his engagement with us was mostly to nestle his face in our laps out of fatigue, rather than his usual playful interaction.

Lack of Sleep Hurts

I previously posted an article on the importance of exercise and mental health, “Reasons to Get Moving!,” but sleep can be considered equally important. In fact, sleeping patterns and changes are something I discuss with clients in counseling. If someone is not getting adequate sleep  there will be effects on their memory and learning, mood, concentration, reaction times, and even relationships.

Who Is Missing Out?

In my experience, teens and parents are the two major groups who report lacking sleep the most. Teenagers are almost always at a high risk of sleep deprivation. They stay up late, texting and talking on the phone, only to get up early for school. They often complain of fatigue and boredom during the day and parents report they are highly irritable and difficult to get along with, not to mention their grades suffer as well. I really believe a part of those complaints is due to lack of sleep.

Parents also report not getting enough sleep. In my own personal experience, as a mother of a toddler, I really don’t think I have truly felt rested in over two years. As a parent, your mind is never completely free from worry or things you need to get done. This fatigue can have a negative effect on a couple’s relationship, as well as our relationships with friends and co-workers.

So What Can You Do?

Most of these suggestions are common sense, so they are really just my way of bringing the issue to your attention and maybe giving you that extra nudge to make some small changes in your life that can help.

  • Try to find more time in your schedule for sleeping. I can hear many of you laughing at me already, but take a few moments to think about what you may be able to cut out of your morning or evening time to allow for more sleep. For example, maybe twice a week you and your spouse can alternate who wakes up with the kids to let the other sleep in. You could also switch off doing the dishes after dinner.
  • Maintain a regular pre-sleep routine. Whether you take a bath or read a book, it’s important to give your body signals that it’s time to shut down for the day. Same goes for your kids and teens.
  • Be aware of the effects of fatigue. You may not be able to add much more sleep into your schedule, so being aware of the effects that your lack of sleep can have on you will be important. If you feel grouchy and know you need more rest, be careful how you respond to others, especially your family. It’s easy to take it out on other people!

Here are some more articles you may find interesting. After you read these, get some rest!

Web MD: What Lack of Sleep Does To Your Mind

Originally posted 2012-07-09 17:41:33.

  • I totally agree that teenagers are some of the hardest-hit group when it comes to sleep deprivation. I think there’s a campaign going on now to delay school start times for this very reason. Apparently their age range requires *more* sleep than younger kids because they’re growing so quickly.

    I wish my little guy loved sleep. It’s often a battle for us, and I wish he were one of those kids who can conk out on a couch or anywhere for that matter. He’s been extending his nap time to 3pm now! It’s nuts but we try to get him to nap until he finally tapers it off. I think even if he stops napping I’m still going to require him to have “rest” time, even if it’s just resting for me 🙂

    Hope you’re hanging in there with sleep and the newborn. That’s great you’re still able to stop by your blog and keep us updated!

    • Thanks for the comment! While our kids our growing, no matter what age, we should try our best to get them to rest. This is when their brains can process all that learning and foster growth! :0

  • Congratualtions on your new bundle of joy ;+) and sleep stealer. :+) I know I have heard that alot from parents lack of sleep. I’ve heard some say it last until they leave home. Yikes! I agree sleep is so important. Just the other day I could tell I was pushing myself to much and was short changed on night of sleep. The next day I just didn’t feel well. I could tell I hit the wall and needed to make sleeping well a priority.
    I use to listen to the radio at night because it usually takes me awhile to fall asleep. I would get sucked into listening to late night programs and stay up really late. No more after I read recent studies on how important getting rectoritive sleep is on over all health.

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