Last week, I posted an Introduction to Filial Therapy. Don’t let the name deter you from reading further. This is simply a tool that play therapists use to create and strengthen the relationship between parents and children.
Today, I am going to share the first few steps in getting started with this special play time with your child! We will talk about who will be included, where the play should be held, a time to schedule, what to tell your child, and what play materials you will need. I am so excited about this blog series because I know so many parents and children can benefit from devoting this time together!!
Who: This play time is recommended for ONE parent and ONE child together at a time. It doesn’t matter if it’s mom or dad. I recommend these sessions for children between the ages of 3 years and 7 years of age.
When: Decide on a specific play session time. I recommend starting with 20-30 minutes, once a week. Choose a time when you will have little to no interruptions and you can focus your attention solely on the child. Choose a time when your child will be fed and rested to avoid any irritability or fussiness.
Where: Choose a room with few (or no) distractions for you and your child. You will be putting the toys on the floor so find a place with decent floor space. If all the rooms in your house are regularly used, just make sure the space is clean (to minimize the distraction of thinking about the mess).
What to Tell the Child: Tell your child that you want to spend more quality time with them and you have chosen the special time, place, and toys to play together. Make the focus your desire to spend time with them, rather than wanting anything from the child.
Play Materials: Below is a list of toys and play materials to collect, but first I’d like to offer a few pointers and guidelines.
- Store your toys in a special box or bag, away from the child’s other toys.
- Do not allow the child to bring in any toys or take any toys from this box of designated toys.
- You can find many of these toys at dollar stores and garage sales. Don’t fret about spending a lot of money!
- If you can’t find every toy on this list, do not let it keep you from getting started. If you have a good number of the toys or can find good substitutes, then you are good to go!
- And finally, below is a list of toys to get started.
- Crayons, Pencils
- Child-safe scissors, glue (I prefer stick glue), Scotch tape
- 1-2 small cars
- Police car, fire truck, ambulance
- 2 cell phones (I use an old cell I no longer use)
- Medical kit
- Toy swords
- Kitchen set (couple dishes and toy food)
- Baby doll and accessories (such as a bottle, diaper, clothes)
- Set of animals (such as a lion, elephant, monkey, shark, dog, pig, etc)
- At least two plush animals
- Deck of cards
- Small ball
- Noise maker (such as a maraca or toy drum)
I gathered a small sample of toys from my play room to give you an example of the types of toys you will be gathering. Happy hunting!
Need to catch up on this series? Check out Connecting With Your Child Through Play, Part 1: Introduction
Originally posted 2013-01-16 12:37:21.